Thu. Mar 4th, 2021

Valentine’s day is just around the corner. Couples will be showering each other with sweet messages online. Social media will be filled with photos of roses and chocolates. If you find yourself single this time around, don’t feel discouraged! Practice self-love instead. It’ll give you a serotonin boost more than any chocolate could.

Why Do You Need To Practice Self-Love?

What is self-love? Is it about splurging on a Black Friday sale? Does it involve going to a spa every weekend? Getting a beauty makeover? Will you love yourself more once you start reading inspirational books?

Self-love goes beyond pampering yourself. It’s not only about feeling good about yourself. Self-love is a mindset. It involves extending to ourselves the same kindness, respect, compassion, and love that we willingly extend towards others.

It’s when you appreciate yourself. When you practice self-love, you’ll begin to understand that you are worthy. Regardless of your accomplishments.

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When you start loving yourself you:

  • Accept your weaknesses
  • Acknowledge your strengths
  • Have a lesser need to give excuses for your shortcomings
  • Have more compassion for yourself
  • Find more meaning in your life
  • Understand the kind of love you’re willing to accept from others

So how do you celebrate yourself with acts of self-love?

How To Practice Self-Love

Take Care of Yourself

This is the easiest way to practice self-love.

Take care of your basic needs. Nourish yourself with healthy food and activities.

Did you eat a bar of chocolate to relieve stress? That’s okay. Your body probably needs a pick-me-up. But don’t let this happen all the time. Doing so can lead to health problems.

Taking care of yourself isn’t just about doing what makes you feel good right now. You need to provide your body with nutrition to function properly. This means:

Practice Mindfulness

Be present in the here and now. Understand how you feel at the present. Work through your feelings, whether it’s sadness, disappointment, or hopelessness. Know that these feelings are normal and you shouldn’t run away from them.

Secondly, be mindful of who you are. Act based on your own beliefs and not based on what others want from you.

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Stop Comparing Yourself

Each individual is on their own personal journey. So it’s unfair to compare yourself to others.

Comparison kills self-love. We take our accomplishments and compare them to others. And when we think those are not enough, we end up feeling miserable.

Instead, understand that each person is on a different path. You can’t compare your life to others even if you feel like you have a similar background or circumstances. Divert your energy inwards. Use your energy to pave your own way. And give yourself a tap on the back for every milestone, no matter how small.

Set Boundaries

It’s okay to say “no”. Practice self-love by setting boundaries in your relationships, work, love, and other activities. Learn to say no to things that harm you physically, mentally, or spiritually.

This also means cutting off toxic people from your life. Surround yourself with people who you feel good with. Think of the relationships and friendships you have.

Do they…

  • Inspire you
  • Fill you up
  • Feel happy for you when you accomplish something
  • Support your decisions

Be careful with who you spend time with. Know the level of respect and love you are willing to accept.

Forgive Yourself

We are all humans. And we are bound to make mistakes and mess up from time to time. So take responsibility for your actions. But make sure to forgive yourself as well.

Don’t keep punishing yourself for something you’ve done. Correct your mistake, then learn and grow from it. You’re human! You’re not meant to be perfect. So practice self-love by being less hard on yourself.

Practice Self Affirmation

Have a hard time believing you’re worthy of love? Listing self-affirmation can go a long way in feeling better about yourself.

Self-affirmation encourages you to think positively. Instead of negative thoughts, convince yourself that you’re beautiful and you’re worthy.

So grab a journal or notebook. List down self-affirmations. You can start by listing everything you love about yourself. To get started, here are a few self-affirmations:

  • I forgive myself.
  • I am confident in my ability to…
  • I feel proud of myself when I….
  • My feelings are valid
  • I trust my intuition
  • I am good at…
  • What I love about myself is…
  • I trust myself to make the right decision
  • I am worthy of love and respect

Practice Self Love Today And Beyond

These are just a few tips for practicing self-love. When you start being kind to yourself, you’ll gradually come to love yourself as well.

Think of it this way. Treat yourself just like how you would treat a family member, a friend, or a loved one. In doing so, you’ll also encourage others to treat you the same way. More importantly, you won’t be settling for anything less in the future.